Let's just put the crap on the table. When did I become old? Look at this picture, I'm still getting carded. To top it off, I have on UGG loafers in that picture. You can't see them but trust me they are there. That has to count for something. People need to act like they know.
Growing up, I was taught that it was good manners to say yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes sir and no sir to my elders. Much like I’ve discovered from a lot of the things that I was told growing up, I wasn’t given all of the details. As I got older, I used these terms more loosely and sometimes it was even used as sarcasm. "Yes Maam" was a blessing and it could be a curse depending on how you made me feel. I know you are wondering what is the big deal about all of this. I’m southern and it was part of my southern upbringing so what. The what is nobody prepared me for the time when I would be addressed as ma'am because someone thought I was old enough to be their great auntie.
When I’m at a restaurant and my server says maam, I’m not moved because I feel it’s apart of the job. They want to get a tip so they are making sure that their manners are on point. What I wasn’t prepared for was the lady that looked to be as old if not older than me calling me ma'am. It startled me. When did the young person, that is me, become a person that should be addressed as ma'am? I know who Lil Nas X is so I think that alone should give me some small amount of street cred and categorize me as Young 30Lo Fly. I then thought that maybe it was a joke and somebody was waiting on my reaction but at no point did I see the camera crew come out. No Punk'd tv crew or Boiling Point crew was anywhere to be found.
My mind raced as it normally does when I'm caught off guard. Did this lady take a swipe at my self-esteem for no reason? Who does that to a person? It left so many questions unanswered. I haven’t even made it to the half way mark of my life yet, why was she being intentionally hurtful? Yeah I have a small arsenal of Life Stride shoes but it's not my fault that seniors were on to something. I'm not old but I'm old enough to know that those shoes feel like you are walking on air. It's not age, it's just common sense. Shoe that hurts my feet and only look good or shoes that feel good and dont leave me with bunions? I would think that would be a no-brainer to anybody.
Growing up, I was taught that it was good manners to say yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes sir and no sir to my elders. Much like I’ve discovered from a lot of the things that I was told growing up, I wasn’t given all of the details. As I got older, I used these terms more loosely and sometimes it was even used as sarcasm. "Yes Maam" was a blessing and it could be a curse depending on how you made me feel. I know you are wondering what is the big deal about all of this. I’m southern and it was part of my southern upbringing so what. The what is nobody prepared me for the time when I would be addressed as ma'am because someone thought I was old enough to be their great auntie.
When I’m at a restaurant and my server says maam, I’m not moved because I feel it’s apart of the job. They want to get a tip so they are making sure that their manners are on point. What I wasn’t prepared for was the lady that looked to be as old if not older than me calling me ma'am. It startled me. When did the young person, that is me, become a person that should be addressed as ma'am? I know who Lil Nas X is so I think that alone should give me some small amount of street cred and categorize me as Young 30Lo Fly. I then thought that maybe it was a joke and somebody was waiting on my reaction but at no point did I see the camera crew come out. No Punk'd tv crew or Boiling Point crew was anywhere to be found.
My mind raced as it normally does when I'm caught off guard. Did this lady take a swipe at my self-esteem for no reason? Who does that to a person? It left so many questions unanswered. I haven’t even made it to the half way mark of my life yet, why was she being intentionally hurtful? Yeah I have a small arsenal of Life Stride shoes but it's not my fault that seniors were on to something. I'm not old but I'm old enough to know that those shoes feel like you are walking on air. It's not age, it's just common sense. Shoe that hurts my feet and only look good or shoes that feel good and dont leave me with bunions? I would think that would be a no-brainer to anybody.
Nobody talks about the feelings and emotions that aren’t related
to menopause when getting older. I feel as if I’ve been slighted because all
that I'm prepared for is hot flashes. I realize that there is a lot more
to being an older woman than hot flashes and weight gain. I should have been warned
that at some point the realization that I was deemed an elder would bother me
way more than any hot flash or extra 10 pounds that I can't seem to lose. It’s hard to keep my head up when
people keep doing things to bring a YOUNG woman down.
I'm left to wonder am I going to be a survivor and rise above the crushing blows or will I be the victim moping around with downcast eyes and a broken heart? The answer to that question remains to be seen. In the mean time, put some spect on my name (in my Birdman voice) but dont let that spect be yes ma'am.
I'm left to wonder am I going to be a survivor and rise above the crushing blows or will I be the victim moping around with downcast eyes and a broken heart? The answer to that question remains to be seen. In the mean time, put some spect on my name (in my Birdman voice) but dont let that spect be yes ma'am.
Lol!! Yes ma'am.
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